It’s all about love ❤️

Sharing my thoughts. … Let the love that you give be without merit or without warrant. It is my prayer that we will choose to be love and show love and let the love of of the heavenly Father be seen through us.

The downside of the single life

Being Single isn’t always the cup of tea that we think it should be, after a time we start to feel alone, others are out on dates and enjoying their relationship life while we may well be home on the couch watching tv.. in this blog I want to take some time to discuss the The Downside of the single life.

https://vocal.media/motivation/the-downside-of-the-single-life

Positive discipline in parenting


Children can/will make better decisions and life choices if we allow them to make mistakes, it is our job to then guide them and perhaps talk to them about what could have been done differently.

Positive discipline does not put forth blame but instead it teaches.

Parenting is not for the faint of heart.

I have 3 children who are currently 4, 3 and 4 months old, to be honest I NEVER in a million years thought that I would some day be someone’s mommy, that was the farthest thing from my mind because I was comfortable being alone and not having any real responsibility.

Parenting for me has been a journey thus far, it’s been often stressful but it is also filled with joys and amazing moments.

This thing called parenting does not come with a guide book so, often i really had to figure it out for myself, many a times I had no clue what I was doing or what I should be doing or how I should have been doing it

When my had my now 4 year old I struggled!!! I had this little person that I now had the responsibility of taking care of, the late nights, the crying, the being sick, the not knowing what she wanted but I had to figure it out.

I made mention in another blog that while I was growing up there was no talking back, as a child/young adult living in my parents house I did what I was told, there were no open on the table discussions, whatever they said whatever little gems or insights you were given you just had to hold on to them.

I have 2 daughters who are 4 and 3, at some point it dawned on me that I don’t want to be that parent, I don’t want my daughter’s especially to ever feel like they can’t come to me so I’ve learned to and am learning to truly listen to them and try to understand them. It’s important to be a responsive parent that can listen to and accept what they say and admonish them accordingly.

I’m doing my best to make it my business to be open and available to them, my little ones are in that questions stage… oh boy it’s NOT easy but I try to answer them in ways I believe they will understand, my 4 year old has recently learned her numbers and how to count and put letters together sooooooo I remember recently she was playing a game on my phone and she said “mommy… then she proceeded to read the numbers she was looking at outloud”!!! Admittedly I looked at her in shock, the first thing out of my mouth was… wait, you can read that??? Ya’ll I was shocked as she stood there giggling away.

I think it’s safe to say that parenting is a thing that has a beginning but no end, as long as that child is alive, as long as you are alive you remain a parent, your job is to do everything that you can to see to it that your child/children have a good life so that when they grow up and have children of their own they will be able to look back at the way they were raised for guidance.

Let me close with this… each day is another day, a new day to learn how to be better and do better by our children, parenting is NOT something that we will be absolutely perfect at but each day, each mistake is a chance to obtain more knowledge and experience and add it to whatever and how much ever we already have.

Stay humble and keep learning ❤

Slavery in Jamaica, the revolt and emancipation.


Jamaica 🇯🇲 Originally called “Xaymaca” meaning Land of wood and water was originally inhabited by Arakak tribe and the Tainos, they became slaves to the Spanish and were plagued with diseases given to them by their captors. It was believed that by 1602 the Arawak had all died out but some of them managed to escape to the mountains, they mixed with African slaves who had also run away.

The Spanish took hundreds of West Africans from their land and bought them to Jamaica, many Africans were bought there not by the Spanish but by the English men.

In 1655 the English men invaded Jamaica and defeated the Spanish, during this time of fighting some of the slaves took the opportunity to escape to the mountains in the island and there they formed what was called independent communities, those who escaped were then known as The Maroons.Marion’s.

Captain Henry Morgan was a plantation owner who raided settlements in Port Royal, he became known as one of the Richest pirates in the Caribbean

In the 18th century Sugar cane became British Jamaicas main source of income, because the sugar industry became so in demand the British brought hundreds of thousands of Africans who had been enslaved to Jamaica. By the year 1850 the Black and Mulatto population far outweighed the white population.

There were many uprising by the slaves during the 18th century including what was called “Tacky’s Revolt” in 1760 as well as “The first maroon war” of the 1730’s followed by “The second Maroon war” of 1795

In 1831 Samuel Sharp was a slave but he was a preacher, he along with the slaves led a strike, they demanded freedom and a working wage, their demands were not met which led to a rebellion. Mr Sharp had aforehand made military preparations with the military group known as “The black regiment” which was led by a slave named Mr. Colonial Johnson.

There were 150 and they had 50 guns, the Regiment went to war with a local militia on December 28th, the militia ended up running away to Montego Bay and the Black Regiment advanced and invited other slaves to join them.

The Baptist war became the largest slave uprising in The British west indies, by this time Jamaica had 300,000 slaves, the brutality that occurred during the revolt was said to have hastened the process of Jamaicas emancipation.


Emancipation

Because of the loss of property and life in the 1831 Baptist War rebellion, the British Parliament held two inquiries. Their reports on conditions contributed greatly to the abolition movement and passage of the 1833 law to abolish slavery as of August 1, 1834, throughout the British Empire. The Jamaican slaves were bound (indentured) to their former owners’ service, albeit with a guarantee of rights, until 1838 under what was called the “Apprenticeship System”.

After World War 2 Jamaica became a long road to independence, they preferred the British culture rather than American, however they had a dislike for British domination, racism and a dictoral government. The British gradually granted them more (self government) and in the end Jamaica received its independence on August 6th 1962

Out of many ONE people. ❤

Did you know???| (location) Hattiesburgh, Mississippi


Did you know that Jesse Leroy Brown was the son of a sharecropper? When he was young he worked in the corn fields in Mississippi, whenever he saw a plane in the sky he would say ” Someday I am going to be a pilot”
His family would laugh at him thinking that he was just joking but little did they know that little boy would grow up to make history and become the 1st black man to become a Navy Airman

Jesse was also a sportsman, during his school days he was a long jumper and also ran track.

The story and naval history of Mr. Jesse L. Brown.


Jesse Leroy Brown
Born: October 13th 1926
Location: Hattiesburgh Mississippi

Growing up, Jesse L. Brown was said to have been an excellent student, he was an athlete and he also excelled in the subject of math. After graduating Highschool he left Mississippi and went on to further his education at Ohio state university.

In 1944 he received a letter from his former high-school principal who commended him for being the first to enter a predominantly white university, In the letter he said “you are our hero”

During college Jesse worked late night hours loading boxcars for the Pennsylvania railroad so that he could fund his education, (you would think one would be exhausted and to tired to study) however Leroy Brown maintained a high GPA.

One day Brown saw a poster that called for new recruits of students for their naval aviation program he decided to join though the odds were against him but nevertheless this became his new way of paying his way through college.

During Jesse’s time in the naval academy he was often put down and told he would never succeed, he was told that he would never make it to the cockpit of a navy aircraft but he pushed on, continued to study and was persistent, because of this he was able to finally take the exam

Jesse Brown endured 5 hours of written tests, followed by oral tests followed by physical examinations and after all of this he passed each with flying colors!!!!

In March of 1947 he was permitted to go to flight training in Glenview Illinois, after that he was sent to training at the Naval air station. On October 21st 1948 at the age of 22 Mr Brown became the first man of color to complete Navy flight training.

Mr Brown became a section leader and
flew a Vought F4U-4 Corsair and was assigned to fighter squadron VF-32 aboard USS Wright.. On December 4th 1950 while in flight with his squad, Mr Browns plane was hit and went down.
After circling over the crash site he was finally found by his mate but he was badly injured, because the plane was so badly damaged there was no way for them to get Mr. Brown out so he succumbed to his wounds and died in the cockpit

Mr. Browns dying words were a simple request. ” please tell my wife that I love her”
Because they were unable to recover his body, his mates decided to honor him with a warriors funeral on December 7th 1950.

Ensign Leroy Brown in death received the purple heart medal and the distinguished flying cross air medal, it was received by his ship mate Hunder who also received medal of honor for exceptionally valiant action and selfless devotion to a shipmate.

In 1973 The Uss Jesse L Brown was launched

Fighting 19th century stereotypes of women. Introducing Mrs. Mary ellen Pleasant

Mrs. Mary Ellen pleasant.

She was thought to have began her life as a slave in Georgia back in the beginning of the 1800s but others believe that she was born a free woman in Philadelphia

In Ms. Pleasants early life she was taught by an abolitionist shop keeper how to run a business, because of him she also learned about the abolitionist movement, this same shopkeeper came from an abolitionist family and saw to it that Mrs. Pleasant married a wealthy free land owner by the name of Mr. Jj Smith, this marriage as well as being in the care of the shop keeper and his family sealed her fortune and helped her to continue on in the cause.

The Smiths went on to help see to it that the slaves escaped to the North. It is said that Mrs. Pleasants husband died early in life after which she moved to San Francisco California and there worked as a cook and a servant in the household of the rich until she was able to start her own boarding house which would grow to become established and many other boarding houses would in time be opened as well.

Mrs. Pleasant stayed in the houses of the wealthy during the Gold rush, at that time she began to train others. Because she was well loved by the rich she obtained much knowledge and used all of it to her benefit, she invested the money that she made and soon after turned it into a wealthy fortune of her own, she invested in stocks, real estate and businesses such as laundry and food, over time she became worth Thirty Million dollars.

Mrs. Pleasant was powerful but she remained humble, she worked in the court houses and continued being a civil rights activist, she sued and won a street car company that did not allow black people to get on board and she then she sued and won another street car company that permitted segregation.

Mrs. Pleasant became very well known in the black community for her role in public support, at that time it was unheard of for a woman to do such things, she was thought of as a super hero to many because she used her own finances to defend those in the black community who had been wronged.

At the end of her life Mrs. Pleasant was remembered as The mother of the Civil rights in California.

Teaching children to say NO. Empowering kids!

Now, before I begin I know what your thinking… where is she going with this? Why in the world would I teach my children to say No????

Let’s start here.

Growing up, if I were to tell my mom or any adult No then that was grounds for an automatic problem, whether it was being told “You will not disrespect your elders” or “what did you say”? In an angry tone. The word No was not something that was really allowed to be in my vocabulary when told to go do this or that or when I didn’t want to do this or that, My parents and the elders who I grew up around were all of west Indian descent so when you were told to do something you did it, there was no conversation regarding why we may not have wanted to do what we were told.

For a child the ability to say no and mean it is like having their very own super power, it is a very valuable, powerful life skill.

As children grow up and eventually start school, start going to friends houses and sleep-overs, after school activities and even to hang out with family they will at some point experience situations and testings, they will need to have the confidence and mental strength to say NO knowing that they will not get into trouble by their parents for telling another adult no and being able to openly explain their reason for it.

Saying NO: to protect themselves

It’s important that we teach our children to say NO if they feel like their safety or well-being is in danger, children need to know that it’s NEVER ok to be touched or talked to in ways that make them feel uncomfortable, saying NO is their first line of defense

Recently I watched this online cyber crime show, in this particular episode there was a young lady who was of high-school age, she met a boy online who claimed to be from the same school, the two started communicating and one day he asked her to flash him, after much hesitancy she did (that would lead to be the biggest mistake she made) the young man used that picture against her and threatened to show that picture to the entire school body if she didn’t continue to send him nudes, so she did, the situation became so overwhelming for her because she felt like she couldn’t tell her parents, friends or anyone, as time went on that young lady hung herself.

It’s a sad and tragic story but it leads to my next thought.

Saying NO to protect their identity.

Children WILL experience peer pressure, whether it be telling lies in school or at home on their siblings, whether it be taking that piece of candy although they were told no, whether it be going outside without an adults permission or your parents not knowing where you are.

For our young teenagers, the pressures of fitting in, mingling in activities that they know they aren’t ready for. Our teens need to fully understand that it’s OK to say NO and that saying no may save them from themselves.

Saying no gives children the ability to love and respect themselves, it builds self-esteem and confidence and helps to build strength and character.

So. As parents how can we help our children? How can we teach them that it’s ok to say no????

• Listen and be open to their thought process, be attentive to what they have you say

• Don’t interrupt them or get angry when they are speaking, show them that they have your attention.

By doing this it’s showing them that they can come to us and actually have an important conversation.

Body language also plays a critical role, children are not dumb, they can sense what and how we feel by our body language, so it’s very important that we are mindful of our body language and our non-verbal line of communication with them when they come to us.

I stated earlier that while growing up telling an adult no was out of the question. It’s a must that we teach our children that although it’s OK to say no it’s needful that they provide an explanation. An example would be.

No I’m nothing going to Sarah’s house because I don’t feel comfortable around her family.

• Saying No more than once is sometimes necessary and always important.

Peer pressure is real at any age, saying no, being stern and continuing to say no in spite of what their peers may think or say sends a message that they will not be bullied or persuaded but will instead stand on their decision to say no.

We must teach our children that if someone makes a request of them, they must first figure out if they are comfortable with it and if not then Should they come to you about it, be sure to let them know that they had the right to say no, let them know that there are differences that conflict and/or go against what they feel or how they feel at that time but saying no if they felt that strongly was perfectly ok.

Teaching our children to say NO, mean it and stand on it will help them greatly to face life head on with much confidence and self-worth, it’s ok to say NO and not be a people pleaser just to make ourselves and family look good or stay in the good graces of others.

Parents let’s be open and receptive, let’s build and work on our lines of communication with our children, let’s show them in sincerity and love that it’s ok, and they are safe to say no when they don’t want to do something that isn’t comfortable to them or their body.