Don’t look back.

Our lives are full of history, filled with past and present events, like our first scratch on the knee, playing outside, our first bike ride, Our first kiss, that first relationship followed by the first heartbreak, our first jobs, our first real taste of the world. All these events that have served as a brick or the bricks that have led to the lives we have today.

As adults, sometimes we roll back the curtains of memory and get stuck remembering the bad things,
It’s important to not focus too much or get caught up in the negative things that have occurred in life, we must be sure to snap back to reality and separate who we were then from who we are in this time.

Philippians 3:13 (New living translation) says:
No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead.

Though I believe we shouldn’t look back, I do believe that we should take the time to reflect, to remind ourselves of how far we’ve come. God knows that as adults we do get discouraged and need a nudge every now and again or even  a gentle self reminder that we’ve come a long way and that we’ve done things right along the way which should encourage us to stay on the right path

Sometimes we forget or lose track of why we’re still going, we forget what we set out to accomplish, it is In these times that we have to remind ourselves that the journey, although as rocky and as discouraging or as rough as it may be, is worth it.

As life moves on and continues from day to day and year to year, don’t look back, don’t let whatever the mountains are in your life cause you to give up, continue to look forward. Onward and outward because your destiny is waiting for you.

Allow me to leave you with this,  it was Maya Angelo who said:

I am that Tree planted by the River,
Which will not be moved.

I, the Rock, I the River, I the Tree
I am yours–your Passages have been paid.

Lift up your faces, you have a piercing need
For this bright morning dawning for you.

History, despite its wrenching pain,
Cannot be unlived, but if faced
With courage, need not be lived again.

Lift up your eyes upon
This day breaking for you.
Give birth again
To the dream.

” The only reason you should look back is to see how far you’ve come”

To thine own self be true.

In Highschool one of the books in the curriculum for the year was Shakespeare, I HATED old English 😀 but I realized something along the way…..In Shakespeare’s “Hamlet”, the most powerful words spoken by Polonius before his son left to catch the boat to Paris was:

“To thine own self be true.”

Thats a quote that is so simple to say but it seems as though we live in a time when it seems like authenticity no longer exists because we let society hold all the standards. There are many who from day to day put on an act or a facade because they feel like it’s easier to be accepted that way, while there are others who have truly forgotten who they are.

It’s so important that we accept ourselves and always carry with us the scripture in (Psalms 139:14) that says:

“we are fearfully and wonderfully made”

the only thing that should matter is how we see ourselves because allowing the world to dictate our who, what, where, when, or why will surely lead to our demise. When we lose sight of who we are our Authentic self becomes compromised.

Before Steve Jobs passed away, he said:

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life”.

People these days are so easily influenced, some live as “yes men/women” they will agree to whatever people say because they don’t know their worth, or they are too afraid to see their own potential, they don’t realize that they are amazing individuals.

Each day is a new day to be open and honest with ourselves, it’s the opportunity to see ourselves through the eyes of those that see us for the beautiful souls that we are. It’s time to get rid of the negative thoughts and be kind to ourselves. It’s time to live in our truth, set the standard and let the world follow suite.

So I encourage you from this day forward to be uniquely you.

“To thine own self be true”

#Be yourself #BelieveInYourself #LoveYourself #BeTrueToYou #Be Strong

Inner Awesomeness… I think that you may have forgotten that you are awesome!

Hey you… Yes YOU reading this.. here’s a gentle nudge and a friendly reminder that You are awesome!

Inner awesomeness can be defined as self-confidence, it comes from deep down inside, it is knowing who you are, it’s having the spirit of compassion, it’s knowing the things you like and the things you dislike. I believe that this awesomeness is in all of us, but we have to tap into it.

Eugene Hennie said:

“I forgot that I was awesome, “

I think this statement rings true for so many people because over time somehow we lose our self-confidence, our shine and our passion for life and then it takes going on an inner journey to remember not who we were but who we truly are and find our sparkle again.

So, what can we do when we lose sight of ourselves or lose our way?

In a blog i wrote some time ago, I mentioned that we all have a story to tell, each of our stories are different but what holds true is that at some point in our stories there comes a time of reflection where, it helps us to see where perhaps we went astray and gives us the opportunity to ask.

How did I get here?
What happened?
What must I do to find my way back?

We can also try to pinpoint our purpose.

2nd Corinthians 3:2 says “You are our epistle written in our hearts, known and read by all men.” Truth be told, sometimes we are the only bible, encouragement, strength, smile that people see from day to day, we may not even pay attention enough to notice it and that in and of itself makes us awesome.

So, whether it be a smile or an encouraging word, the next two questions are:

What is the message that you have to share with the world?
Are you doing what needs to be done to live in and fulfill that purpose?

In one of my blogs titled “To thine own self be true” I spoke about being authentic, being authentic is a big part of that inner awesomeness, it’s the not caring what people say and walking in your truth from day to day that makes us special, only those who are insecure find reasons to hate because they only wish they had your inner strength.

The very fact that there are so many who have this strength is awesome, I believe it should be worn like a cape 🙂 or badge of honor and shown to the world, I mean, after all why hide it?

I opened with a quote from Eugene Hennie who said “I forgot that I was awesome”. Well, for those of us who have forgotten, here’s a friendly reminder “You-Are-Awesome”💓 don’t you ever forget and from this day on don’t you let anyone dim your light.

You are not beyond receiving love.

It is my hearts prayer that someone really understands this blog.

It’s one thing to love and have love in some form or fashion in your life, but it is just as important to allow yourself to BE LOVED.
…some people feel like they are unloved, unlovable or not worthy of love but; the truth is… it doesn’t matter who you are, how far you’ve fallen, what your feelings are or whatever the case may be,the simple fact is that you are worth being loved.

You might feel like a screw up or like you’ve done to much or are now out of reach or place but please remember this.. Love that is real love is Redemptive!

No one is beyond receiving love. Each and every day and more than likely every moment of the day we FAIL Christ BUT HE continues to LOVE and to LOVE and to LOVE until we finally get it!!!!!!!! That is the definition of love, That’s what you call unconditional love, It’s not based off of Merritt or warrant but rather it’s love because YOU are worthy of it!

So today, know that you are so worth it… all you have to do is open your ♥ heart to let it in, don’t feel embarrassed or second guess it, be free to receive it, let love heal you where you hurt, let love wash the pain away, let love do a perfect work in your life.

#AllowItToday #BeEncouraged

Relationships are no longer what they used to be.

My mom married my step-dad when I was really young, TRUTH IS, I never took to him, to me he was like bad glue, he just didn’t rub off the right way, I just didn’t get along with him BUTTTTT it wasn’t about me it was about THEM…. one thing I can say for sure is that come what may they MADE IT WORK!, never once did I see my stepfather walk out because “he needed space or he needed to think” never EVER once did I see my mom disrespect him in any way, shape or form.

I’m so much older now and I see/hear people in whole relationship talking bout I/we need a break, I need to think, now, I’ve come to realize that relationships of old were, like ford “BUILT TOUGH”, they had the glue to keep it together comes what may, good times, bad times, tough times, tears and all but they STUCK IT OUT!!
I’m ALMOST 39 years old and the question that sticks with me is, if people are in a relationship or engaged and want to run or take a break every time things get rough HOWWWWW in the world will a marriage between them ever work?
Lately in my head I’ve come to see that being engaged is the new being married because it seems like NOBODY wants to get married anymore, nobody wants to stand before God and say I do and I mean I get it.

I remember a long time ago someone said to me “it’s just cheaper to keep her” because a divorce would just cost to much and be to much of a headache and take up to much time, not to long ago someone said to me that their fear was loosing the person simply because by loosing that person that would mean they would then know that they were completely rejected and understand that there was better than them out there, they would then understand that they could have/should have done better even though all along they chose not to.

It’s sad because it seems like often times, the only reason people hold on is out of selfishness and fear that the person they were with who they hurt or did wrong by actually ended up finding someone who treated them so much better OR didn’t find anyone at all because, well, “if I can’t have you then you can’t be with anyone else” right???

Here’s my thing…before entering into a relationship and dragging it out for years and then never marrying that person (I have seen this first hand) the female was devestated!. So before committing PLEASE be sure of what it is that you really want, otherwise leave that person be so to not waste their time or so that the next person who may indeed find them WORTHY of loving enough to marry can indeed be with them… let’s stop being selfish holding on to people… GOOOOOD PEOPLE because we know that they are good quality material but we are just to selfish to let go in fear of them meeting someone who will value them!….

In retrospect, let us Choose to do right or be the bigger person and let them go.

Black history’s “did you know? Featuring Mrs. Hattie McDaniel.

Meet Mrs. Hattie McDaniel. 🌹

Did you know that Hattie McDaniel (she was the star of “Gone with the wind”) was not allowed to the movies national premier?

Hattie McDaniel was the first African American to win an oscar, despite the way that Hollywood was at that time towards black people Mrs. McDaniel made a name for herself and helped to open the door for many other African american women.

In 1939 her role in Gone with the wind won her the award of best supporting actress, the movie premier was held in Atlanta Georgia, she was not able to be present because of the Jim crow laws.

Mrs. Mcdonald went in to star in 300 other films, in 2006 she was inducted into the black filmmakers hall of fame, she was also the very first woman and film maker to appear on a stamp.

Although she was in her life criticized for settling for lesser roles such as servitude Mrs. Mcdonald went on to have a remarkable stellar career.

A letter from a slave to his mother in 1859.

This is a letter from an unidentified slave that was written in 1859, it was said that both he and his mom were slaves.

My Dear Mother

I take this opportunity of writing to you to let you know that I am still in Alexandria. I expect to start about next tuesday. there is a young lady here that I am very much taken with and I think that my Master will buy her and take her out with us. since I was in Rappahanock, I have been in Faquier at the Widow Bailys and have seen all my friends.  I do not think I can leave Virginia without carrying out a Virginia wife with me. I went to Mrs. Bailys expecting to meet My Old Master as he said he would be there.  Mrs. Baily met me at the lot gate and was wondering who I was untill I got up to her when she knew me. I expected to come back to see you all again but as I bid you all good bye I thought I would not

My Dear Mother this all I can think of at present. If I succeed in my undertakings I will send you all the good news when I get home.

We have bought all our servants.

Direct your letters to


In Care of Mr R.W. Smith

• The letter was written in Alexandria Virginia

• The slave master was Mr. R.W. Smith who had a plantation and owned 74 slaves in Portland Alabama

• Francis Lee Smith was the brother of R.W, Francis lived in Alexandria, Virginia, at the time he had been visiting R.W and purchased slaves for his own plantation.

This letter was found in the possession of Colonel John A. Washington, George Washington’s great-grandnephew 

It’s a wonder if Mr. John Washington had slaves for hire in 1859, maybe Mr Robert Smith was a temp master at the time?.

Black History Spotlight. Mr. Bayard Rustin.

We know that The Reverend Dr. Martin Luther King was and always will be the face of the March on Washington But!!!! Did you know that it was Mr Bayard who quietly organized the marches?, Mr. Bayard was the man who would rally the troops.

• In 1942 he helped form what is known as (CORE) the Congress of Racial Equality , Core, alongside the NAACP helped to lead in the struggle of the civil rights movement.

• In 1947 he helped to organize and take part in what was called “The journey of reconciliation” this would be the first of many freedom rides against segregation in the south.

The reason why Mr. Bayard was placed in the shadows was because he was a gay man and at that time he was considered to be to much of a liability to be on the front lines of the civil rights movement, he also had ties to communism that Dr. King and others felt weren’t to note worthy.

Mr. Rustin was said to be one of the
most brilliant minds of that time, he faithfully served the community all while being the voice that pushed for better jobs and better pay for black people.

Introducing Mr. Tice David’s.

When we hear and think of the underground railroad we often attribute that to Mrs. Harriet Tubman!! Did you know that the underground railroad didn’t start with Mrs. Tubman at all?, nope, it surely didn’t, the underground railroad was started by a gentleman named “Tice Davids” in 1831.

Mr Davids ran away from his slave owner in Kentucky, he swam across the Ohio River while his owner was right behind him on a boat trying to catch Tice, mr Davids made it to the Ohio Shore just moments before his master could catch up with him, when his master finally got to the shore mr Davids was already gone, his master could not find him, his master said Tice must have gone off on “an Underground railroad”

It is believed that he was hidden away by abolitionists who then helped him escape to freedom.

It was Mr. Davids running away that would soon lead to the naming of the underground railroad.

Black history spotlight. Mrs. Claudette Colvin.

When we hear of Rosa parks, we think of “the lady who refused to move to the back of the bus” but did you know that before Mr.s Parks there was Mrs. Claudette Colvin?

She is proof that you are never to young to bring about a change.

Mrs. Claudette Colvin was born September 5th, 1939 in Montgomery, Alabama, she grew up in a very poor neighborhood and wanted to be President one day, she is a true civil rights activist.

In 1955 Mrs. Colvin was a 15 year old school girl who refused to move to the back of the bus, while in school she was studying another black leader, Mrs. Harriet Tubman, in her segregated school they would have discussions about the Jim Crow laws, so  on the day that Mrs. Claudette was told to get up and move she refused, she said:

“It felt like Sojourner Truth was on one side pushing me down, and Harriet Tubman was on the other side of me pushing me down. I couldn’t get up.”

After that day Mrs. Claudette would continue to take a stand, she found herself arrested and thrown in Jail. Mrs. Claudette went on to challenge the courts rules on segregation.  

The case of ‘Browder vs Gayle’ was the case that soon overturned bus segregation laws in Both Montgomery and Alabama.

Mrs. Gayle would eventually transition from Montgomery to Nyc where she would spend the rest of her days.

Mrs. Colvin after leaving the south and moving to NYC, worked in a nursing home until the day of her retirement.

In 1990 Mrs. Colvin was awarded the MLK medal of freedom by Governor Mario Cuomo and in 2009 she was the subject of Phillip Hoose’s Claudette Colvin: Twice Toward Justice, which won a National Book Award.

Mrs Colvin was an overlooked hero who helped set the wheels of a new era in motion.

Rosa Parks and Claudette Colvin. The story of Mrs. Colvin occurred just 9 months before Rosa Parks became a leading Pioneer.