The choice to be happy| My newest podcast “Heart Therapy”

Today let’s talk about making the choice to be “Happy” some people say Happiness is over rated, others say, no one can truly be that happy!!!…
Join me today on #HeartTherapy and let’s talk about it.

Rest, Recover and Heal.

Sometimes soldiers go to war/battle and during that time injuries may occur, some soldiers will obtain far greater injuries than otners… when that happens and you have survived it is then that you have to REST, RECOUP and HEAL!!

I understand that soldiers want to be in their place on the field along with their fellow men/women BUT one MUST take the time to rest, rest your mind emotionally and your body physically, Rest from the battle and rest so that your body can fight and regain the strength it needs because in due time you will need your strength…

I believe that the most important thing that needs to be done before one can get back on the field is to HEAL!!!
How can you fight along side your comrades? how can you fully assist in battle if you are still badly injured or if your physical body isn’t strong enough? One must take the time to get your strength back up and to properly heal.

So it is in life, it is so imperative that we do ourselves a favor and heal emotionally, mentally and physically, some of us have been living and battling with silent hurt, pain, battle scars that NOBODY knows about, things that some may feel to ashamed or uncomfortable or embarrassed to speak about…. it’s time to let the healing begin, we must allow ourselves to fight/work towards emotional, mental, physical, emotional freedom.

Let me share something with you that i have never openly shared {it’s time to live in my truth}

For YEARSSSSSSSS I lived under the shadow of believing that my mother’s death was my fault, let me explain.

After my oldest brother graduated High school he enrolled into the military, he and my mom had a tight knit relationship, she and i not so much. When she passed away i was in my final year of high school, i was never one to leave the house unless it was for church, school or some choir event or unless it was the weekend and i was going to head over to my family’s house just to spend some time, any who, i now understand that he needed someone to put blame on, who better but me? after she passed away i remember it was about a year later, he one day turned to me and said, she is dead because of you, because you stressed her out, you gave her a headache, her death is all your fault….

Let me pause and remind you i was a teenager in my last year of high school, i was the quiet type with no friends really… then the question becomes, why didn’t i say something to someone? truth… who would have really believed me?

This became a struggling point, like a major turning point in my life, for the next 11 years i battled anxiety and depression, but, then came 2012.

{2012. The end of my battle, my emotional and mental freedom were gained.}

In 2012 I had a conversation with someone who knew all about that situation, (I have a tendency to pack things up in the back of my mind and throw away the key) anyway I remember the day we spoke, that weight was Heavy on me, this person stopped dead in their tracks and just started praying for me! When I tell you, by the end of that conversation I KNEW I was healed from that guilt, all the pain, all of emotional baggage that i was internally quietly carrying with me had broken off of me and just drained away.

Ladies and gentlemen, i said that and shared my story simply to say this,all things considered, i have realized that {the mind is the battle field}, everything starts in our minds, it starts with the things that we hear, it starts with those positives or negatives that people say to us from day to day, the things that we take in that may or may not be good/healthy for us. Today, allow yourself to be healed, to be careful of what we accept, to be mindful of what we allow ourselves to believe/receive into our spirits, let us strive to be able to let go and to be made whole.

Some would say, but it’s not that easy, or easier said than done and you would be absolutely right.

NO it’s not easy, it takes work and sometimes because things are always so suppressed in our minds and lives we just give up but please don’t continue to live with the pain, be free, be healed, be whole


Don’t look back.

Our lives are full of history, filled with past and present events, like our first scratch on the knee, playing outside, our first bike ride, Our first kiss, that first relationship followed by the first heartbreak, our first jobs, our first real taste of the world. All these events that have served as a brick or the bricks that have led to the lives we have today.

As adults, sometimes we roll back the curtains of memory and get stuck remembering the bad things,
It’s important to not focus too much or get caught up in the negative things that have occurred in life, we must be sure to snap back to reality and separate who we were then from who we are in this time.

Philippians 3:13 (New living translation) says:
No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead.

Though I believe we shouldn’t look back, I do believe that we should take the time to reflect, to remind ourselves of how far we’ve come. God knows that as adults we do get discouraged and need a nudge every now and again or even  a gentle self reminder that we’ve come a long way and that we’ve done things right along the way which should encourage us to stay on the right path

Sometimes we forget or lose track of why we’re still going, we forget what we set out to accomplish, it is In these times that we have to remind ourselves that the journey, although as rocky and as discouraging or as rough as it may be, is worth it.

As life moves on and continues from day to day and year to year, don’t look back, don’t let whatever the mountains are in your life cause you to give up, continue to look forward. Onward and outward because your destiny is waiting for you.

Allow me to leave you with this,  it was Maya Angelo who said:

I am that Tree planted by the River,
Which will not be moved.

I, the Rock, I the River, I the Tree
I am yours–your Passages have been paid.

Lift up your faces, you have a piercing need
For this bright morning dawning for you.

History, despite its wrenching pain,
Cannot be unlived, but if faced
With courage, need not be lived again.

Lift up your eyes upon
This day breaking for you.
Give birth again
To the dream.

” The only reason you should look back is to see how far you’ve come”

You are not beyond receiving love.

It is my hearts prayer that someone really understands this blog.

It’s one thing to love and have love in some form or fashion in your life, but it is just as important to allow yourself to BE LOVED.
…some people feel like they are unloved, unlovable or not worthy of love but; the truth is… it doesn’t matter who you are, how far you’ve fallen, what your feelings are or whatever the case may be,the simple fact is that you are worth being loved.

You might feel like a screw up or like you’ve done to much or are now out of reach or place but please remember this.. Love that is real love is Redemptive!

No one is beyond receiving love. Each and every day and more than likely every moment of the day we FAIL Christ BUT HE continues to LOVE and to LOVE and to LOVE until we finally get it!!!!!!!! That is the definition of love, That’s what you call unconditional love, It’s not based off of Merritt or warrant but rather it’s love because YOU are worthy of it!

So today, know that you are so worth it… all you have to do is open your ♥ heart to let it in, don’t feel embarrassed or second guess it, be free to receive it, let love heal you where you hurt, let love wash the pain away, let love do a perfect work in your life.

#AllowItToday #BeEncouraged