One of the hardest lessons I have learned in this life is that having a big heart and being nice will often leave you with a broken heart and make you wonder if having friends or a social circle are really a good idea.
Having a big heart is such a blessing, you can share your smile, your generosity, your heart with the world and in return you may end up encouraging or putting a smile on someone’s face, someone who was on the verge of giving up or may at the time be on the verge of giving up may gain new strength to fight and to continue on just because you are that one person who truly cares.
Having a big heart, it’s not something that you can just turn off or on like a switch, it is who you are, no matter how you may in life try to change because you’ve realized that people have taken advantage of you for being the person that you are, it seems that you can’t fight it, i realize that i have come to terms with believing that those with a big heart are made extra special and sent from the heavens to in some way be a blessing in and to this world.
The biggest problem or challenge with having a big heart is that you are easily caught in the crossfires.
Well, what do I mean by that ?
when those around you whether it be your colleagues, friends, family members, or even the very person you are in a relationship with, they over extend your kindness and they knowingly use you, it becomes clear that they do not appreciate you or anything you do, they wholeheartedly take advantage of you.
When you live a life where helping and being there for others comes naturally, it truly is a rewarding feeling because you are able to come to the aid of others, you are that shoulder, that pillow of comfort…..However…I certainly believe that because everyone is so used to you being there, when you now need someone, it seems confusing to them because there was never a need for them to be there for you or to consider you in return.
If i were to speak from my own experience, in my own view of things, then truth be told there were times when I wanted to run away from the world, and other times when i honestly just wanted to curl up into a ball and stay there, i have wanted to create a bubble and build walls and keep everyone out just so that the hurt would stop and people would realize that i was not their punching bag, i wanted them to come to the realization that i was human to, that i came with feelings and emotions and the way they were treating me was uncool.
Let me close out by saying this, if you can relate to this blog, if you feel like being you is just not worth it and you are ready to tell the world where to go and what to do with themselves because you have just had enough!, take a moment and think on this thought:
This big, crazy world that we live in, it needs a you!, it needs the love you give, it needs to see that there are still some people out there with compassion in their hearts, it needs to see that there is still someone out there who isn’t afraid to be themselves and stand with strength no matter what is thrown their way. So please… don’t shut yourself away, continue to be you, spread love, spread those positive vibes, continue to be that light that someone needs because in truth you have no clue how many people you may come into contact with whose lives you will end up saving just because of that big heart of yours.